22 04, 2025

The Push-Pull of Closeness: Navigating the Claustro-Agoraphobic Dilemma

2025-04-22T06:13:50+00:00

You know that feeling when you want someone close—but the moment they actually get close, something inside you recoils.

Or maybe you feel safer on your own—until the space around you gets so quiet it starts […]

The Push-Pull of Closeness: Navigating the Claustro-Agoraphobic Dilemma2025-04-22T06:13:50+00:00
17 12, 2024

The duality between giving and receiving

2024-12-18T00:09:32+00:00

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the dynamics of giving vs receiving, as well tensions between the need to express ourselves outwards vs. needing to retreat inwards. Sometimes we long to put ourselves out there and other times we yearn to take things in or sit with what’s inside.

The duality between giving and receiving2024-12-18T00:09:32+00:00
31 03, 2020

5 Defenses Against Closeness & How Telehealth Counseling Helps

2023-12-31T02:47:08+00:00

couples therapy

Many of us take the idea of love for granted. We think we want it (love, that is). We try to get it. We imagine the form we want it in, and we imagine how happy we’d be if only we could find another to meet our […]

5 Defenses Against Closeness & How Telehealth Counseling Helps2023-12-31T02:47:08+00:00
6 01, 2020

Psychoanalysis at its best- by Lucy Sant’Anna Takagi, Psy.D

2025-07-08T17:13:03+00:00

trauma from therapy

 

When I read this poignant account of the author’s experiences with her psychoanalyst, I knew I wanted to post it as a guest post on my blog! I’m grateful to the author for allowing me to do so and hope you will enjoy this as […]

Psychoanalysis at its best- by Lucy Sant’Anna Takagi, Psy.D2025-07-08T17:13:03+00:00
26 12, 2019

Conflicts about Rivalry and Competitiveness- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2019-12-26T05:15:45+00:00

guilt

Conflicts and anxieties about rivalry and competitiveness

Are you a perfectionist? Competitive? Afraid of what people would think if they saw or knew the “real” you?

You may be more anxious and/or conflicted than you know!

Symptoms of anxiety such as

  • perfectionism,
  • self-consciousness,
  • fear of social situations,
  • panic attacks,
  • or […]
Conflicts about Rivalry and Competitiveness- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2019-12-26T05:15:45+00:00
26 08, 2019

Healing from Therapy Trauma- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2023-12-31T01:23:20+00:00

trauma from therapyHealing from therapy trauma:

Most therapists are good people who are competent, kind, ethical, and qualified when it comes to helping people with mental health or relationship struggles. Licensing and ethics boards also exist to help protect clients from being harmed by therapy.

But therapists are […]

Healing from Therapy Trauma- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2023-12-31T01:23:20+00:00
22 08, 2019

If you’re coming to therapy, please bring your transference with you!

2023-12-31T03:02:20+00:00

psychoanalysis

 

What psychoanalysis has taught us about transference, and some thoughts on transference at the beginning of therapy:

A lot of clients come to therapy with already activated transferences- transferences to the therapy setting; to the actual therapist; or to the idea of therapy.

Transference, loosely defined, refers to […]

If you’re coming to therapy, please bring your transference with you!2023-12-31T03:02:20+00:00
22 07, 2019

Two Wrongs Don’t Make a Right- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2019-07-22T04:05:02+00:00

toxic

 

When I was growing up my teachers used to say: two wrongs don’t make a right.

Annoying and clichéd at the time, little did I know just how often I would need these very words in my work as a therapist.

In the couples I work with, one of […]

Two Wrongs Don’t Make a Right- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2019-07-22T04:05:02+00:00
30 12, 2018

Getting Past Anxiety- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2019-07-28T15:11:38+00:00

anxiety treatmentGetting Past Anxiety: A Formula that Works

Do you worry all the time? Are you a ball of stress? Do you struggle with perfectionism, panic, or simply overthinking things?

Anxiety is no fun, but lots of people wait until things get really bad to get help.

If you struggle with […]

Getting Past Anxiety- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2019-07-28T15:11:38+00:00
20 12, 2017

To show ourselves or to hide? Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-12-31T00:01:33+00:00

showing off

Are you hiding from the world, or desperate to be noticed?

A psychoanalyst I know recently told me that people only feel the need to show off that which they have had to hide.

Since so many of my patients struggle with shame over showing the world […]

To show ourselves or to hide? Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-12-31T00:01:33+00:00
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