When I was growing up my teachers used to say: two wrongs don’t make a right.
Annoying and clichéd at the time, little did I know just how often I would need these very words in my work as a therapist.
In the couples I work with, one of […]
Getting Past Anxiety: A Formula that Works
Do you worry all the time? Are you a ball of stress? Do you struggle with perfectionism, panic, or simply overthinking things?
Anxiety is no fun, but lots of people wait until things get really bad to get help.
If you struggle with […]
You’ve come to this page which means you’re likely dealing with someone in your life who really PUSHES YOUR BUTTONS, makes you feel HELPLESS, or draws you into constant BATTLES you don’t want to be having.
You’ve probably already tried everything you could think of to make things […]
Are you hiding from the world, or desperate to be noticed?
A psychoanalyst I know recently told me that people only feel the need to show off that which they have had to hide.
Since so many of my patients struggle with shame over showing the world […]
Here is a video that goes together with the post called “Your Unconscious May Be Trying To Tell you Something”
For more information about using signifiers in therapy, claiming your own desire, and integrating the Symbolic, Imaginary, and the Real…here are some of […]
Feeling Stuck? Your Unconscious May be Trying to Tell You Something
Lacan suggested that the “unconscious is structured like a language”.
And for those of you who feel STUCK, it’s a language you may want to learn.
STUCK may mean that you can’t move forward with something in […]
Have you ever had the experience of feeling like someone kept pushing your buttons over and over until you finally exploded, even though you were trying so hard not to?
Or perhaps this is familiar to you: You keep getting blamed for something that you’re only doing because […]
Working with the Unconscious in Therapy
Often our dreams hide as much as they reveal. The unconscious is very smart that way; it protects us from what we don’t wish to know about ourselves. We each have our own personal taboos; things about ourselves that feel […]
Some of you may be surprised to know that even today there are people who attend psychoanalytic sessions 3, 4, or even 5 times per week! The type of work that can be done with this intensity can be much deeper and rewarding than a psychotherapy process […]
Here are some recent question and answer exchanges about narcissistic and borderline personality issues: