Looking for a therapist in Clifton, NJ?
Finding the right therapist is important.
If you’ve tried therapy before, you probably already know how important it is to feel like your therapist really “gets” what you’re going through, is willing to talk directly with you about the stuff you try to hide from the world but that you do need to actually talk to someone about, and understands that although it may be easy to give advice and solutions that’s not really what you need (because if change was that simple you would have fixed your problems by yourself a long time ago).
If you haven’t tried therapy before, you may feel a fear of being judged or of admitting that you need help from a professional (at first). People can have all sorts of ideas in their head about how scary it will feel to actually attend a therapy session! I will be sensitive to your feelings of exposure, won’t judge you, and will help you get through it. You’ll see, it will be way more comfortable than you think!
It’s important for you to know that the people who work well with me are not looking for a quick fix and are prepared to come regularly every single week, even when they’re mad at me or tired or just don’t feel like it, because the consistency and effort are what will create real and lasting changes.
Imagine being able to wake up in the morning and to fully accept the person you see in the mirror. Think about how it will feel when you put in the work to really get past the stuff that’s holding you back; when you can clear out dysfunctional relationships from your life, set boundaries when you feel like it, speak with firmness and authority without being either aggressive or weak, make peace with your past, put your anxieties to rest, and spread your wings without fear so that you can show the world who you truly are.
For the past 16 years, I have been helping individuals and couples get to the root of their unconscious defenses, projections, struggles, and conflicts so that they can feel freer, lighter, and more joyful in their lives.
My specialties include:
Relationship Issues, such as: trust difficulties, communication problems, feelings of disconnection, or constant fighting. I work with both couples and individuals to help them break free from unhealthy cycles of interaction and reestablish feelings of closeness, safety, and security in their relationships. I also offer consultations to help people understand difficult relationship dynamics better, as well as to identify effective ways of interacting with difficult family members.
Anxiety Disorders such as:
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, in which a person becomes afraid of or preoccupied with obsessive thoughts about feared events such as: making a mistake; having contact with germs; committing a sin; hurting someone such as one’s child (or violent fantasies/images that come into one’s mind); and losing control in some other way.
Social Anxiety Disorder, in which a person constantly worries about or tries to avoid feelings of embarrassment or perceived rejection in social settings
Panic Disorder, in which a person experiences physical symptoms of panic, such as dizziness or a racing heart, without an apparent cause; often this person then becomes afraid of the panic attacks themselves, trying to avoid situations in which a panic attack may occur.
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, in which a person tries to avoid feelings and memories associated with a past traumatic event, either by trying to avoid situations that remind the person of the past trauma or by reliving the event as if it’s happening over and over again in the present (rather than thinking about and processing the event as something that has happened in the past but is now over).
Personality Issues such as: Borderline Personality Disorder, dealing with difficult people, commitment fears in relationships, and personality splits (opposite extremes in one’s feelings and relationships).
I also invite you to read some of my blog posts to get a feel for some of my work.
My general approach is psychodynamic. This means that I will help you identify patterns of feelings, behaviors, and relationship themes that may be out of your awareness but are influencing a lot of your behaviors, motivations, difficulties, and choices. We will explore how these connect to past experiences and how resolving them, in the therapy relationship as well as outside of it, can help you have a greater sense of well-being and freedom from symptoms and struggles that you are having.
And if you want to do some really deep psychoanalytic work, please read more about that here:
Who Is Mirel Goldstein?
Mirel Goldstein, MS, MA, LPC is a licensed therapist with an office conveniently located in Clifton NJ; she is a graduate of Columbia University, with over 14 years of experience successfully counseling both couples and individuals. Mirel specializes in the treatment of relationship issues, trauma, and anxiety disorders. Mirel’s work experience includes clinical case management; forensic assessment and case management for clients with co-occurring mental illness and criminal justice involvement; crisis intervention and assessment for clients experiencing acute symptoms, substance abuse, suicidality, and self-harming behaviors; clinical consultation and staff training in a residential facility for clients with chronic mental illness; emergency room counseling; school counseling; family therapy; and group therapy. Mirel maintains her private psychotherapy practice in addition to her responsibilities as a college teacher, author, and popular lecturer. Mirel is the former online training administrator for the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation and authored the novel “What Your Therapist is Really Thinking”; she is also a past recipient of an award for her clinical work by the New Jersey Association for Mental Health and Addiction Agencies.
Ready to move forward with treatment? Please give me a call and then visit my forms page to get started!