Labeling OCD Thoughts for What They Are

Thank you to my colleague Amanda Petrik-Gardner for permission to use her infographic!

Identifying when OCD is pulling you in:

Many people find it helpful to label their OCD thoughts as external to them, such as calling the thoughts “the […]

Labeling OCD Thoughts for What They Are2024-05-01T21:23:18+00:00

Should the need for reassurance be outgrown?

When it comes to feelings of vulnerability, fear, or distress, reassurance is one of the earliest forms of soothing our parents and caregivers provide.

From as early as infancy, our parents say comforting words to us when we cry, as […]

Should the need for reassurance be outgrown?2024-04-02T14:41:48+00:00

Social Anxiety and Fear of Speaking Up

Social Anxiety has a way of making us feel we can’t stand up for ourselves in social settings that make us nervous or uncomfortable.

The anxiety about how we appear to others or how they’re judging us, as well […]

Social Anxiety and Fear of Speaking Up2024-03-03T23:01:45+00:00

Desires for Answers and Intolerance of Doubt

psychoanalysis and dreams

An unquenchable search and thirst for knowledge, theories, and ideas is often a source of creativity, accomplishment, and intellectual achievement.

Yet the pull towards knowledge-seeking can also mislead us if it compels us to look for answers that don’t exist; to find neat resolutions to unresolvable paradoxes; or to try to solve emotional […]

Desires for Answers and Intolerance of Doubt2024-02-26T21:25:00+00:00

When the need for knowledge becomes an anxiety problem

A common symptom of anxiety or OCD is a need for information and knowledge, and difficulty coping with uncertainty or ambiguity.

When things are unclear, unpredictable, or unknown, sometimes we cope with anxiety about this by overanalyzing things, […]

When the need for knowledge becomes an anxiety problem2024-02-11T04:12:04+00:00

Could you be using your mind for self-protection?

Each of us has our specific go-to ways of protecting ourselves from pain or trauma, often subconsciously chosen in large part based on our inborn temperaments and personalities. Some of our protective mechanisms were learned in very early childhood, before we even […]

Could you be using your mind for self-protection?2024-01-08T00:22:06+00:00

When you don’t know if you love your partner even though everything’s good on paper.

Sometimes married clients come in struggling to figure out whether they’re “in love” with their partner or not, even though the partner is nice, stable, and not doing anything wrong? These clients don’t essentially have any complaints about their marriage, but are struggling more with fear about what it means about them and […]

When you don’t know if you love your partner even though everything’s good on paper.2023-12-31T21:41:12+00:00

Expressive vs. supportive therapy approaches

Supportive vs. Expressive Therapy Approaches

Therapy approaches and techniques tend to be on a supportive/expressive continuum.

What this means is that sometimes a therapist focuses on helping a client gain deeper insight into memories, feelings, thoughts, wishes, and expectations that are dynamically unconscious (out of one’s […]

Expressive vs. supportive therapy approaches2023-12-31T03:23:44+00:00

Letting Go of Unmet Expectations in Relationships

One of the most painful things that can happen in relationships is to feel like we really just can’t get through to another person; that no matter how hard we try to make ourselves heard, somehow the other person just can’t or won’t see our point of view.

The need for understanding is a basic and […]

Letting Go of Unmet Expectations in Relationships2023-08-30T20:54:30+00:00
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