When we begin therapy, the initial focus is often on the conscious reasons behind our struggles—the triggers we can easily identify. These might include the way a parent treated us, a relationship that went wrong, or something within ourselves we […]
Feeling Stuck? Your Unconscious May Be Trying to Tell You Something:
-The Unconscious Speaks: Lacan famously said, “The unconscious is structured like a language.” If you feel stuck, perhaps it’s time to learn that language.
Some of my clients find themselves becoming very upset when they feel wronged or exploited. This reaction can be a strength, especially when we have the ability to protect ourselves by speaking up or leaving the situation. However, there are times when we […]
Shame is a powerful emotion that can shape our self-perception and interactions with others. Often, people avoid facing their own shame by denying the realities of those around them. This denial serves as a defense mechanism, helping them maintain a comfortable self-image. However, it can be incredibly damaging to those whose experiences are […]
In truth, all emotions we experience are ultimately signals—responses to stimuli or conditioning we’ve internalized. By questioning whether these emotions truly belong to us (or if they’re introjected, i.e. alien aspects from others that don’t align with our true selves); assessing whether they’re helpful and appropriate to the context we’re experiencing them in; and recognizing them as acceptable parts of ourselves, we increase our agency and autonomy. Moving away from reflexive, automatic beliefs and reactions to our emotions towards more reflective and constructive ways of relating to them can help us engage with them in ways that align with our true selves.
Anxiety often feels like an inescapable part of life, driven by persistent worry and rumination. Metacognitive therapy (MCT) offers a unique perspective on how our beliefs about our thoughts can maintain and even exacerbate anxiety.
Do you think your feelings are supposed to make sense? Do you try to talk yourself out of your emotions if you think they’re unjustified or invalid?
If this is you, you’re probably doing this for a good reason, […]
Having an avoidant or dismissive attachment style can lead to not wanting to take medication or rely on others or talking about feelings for help. Having a preoccupied or anxious ambivalent attachment style can lead to a person wanting a “pill” that can “fix things” or wanting someone or something to make them […]
Understanding and Managing Intrusive Thoughts
We’ve all experienced those random thoughts that pop into our heads seemingly out of nowhere. For most of us, these fleeting thoughts are barely noticeable, and we move on without giving them a second thought. […]
We develop self-consciousness when we start to see ourselves objectively, stepping out of our own experience to imagine how others perceive us. This ability to see ourselves from an outsider’s perspective is an important developmental step. Those who lack awareness of how others […]