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3 09, 2017

Projective Processes in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-12-31T21:37:07+00:00

Have you ever had the experience of feeling like someone kept pushing your buttons over and over until you finally exploded, even though you were trying so hard not to?

Or perhaps this is familiar to you: You keep getting blamed for something that you’re only doing because […]

Projective Processes in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-12-31T21:37:07+00:00
28 02, 2017

Insights about Relationship Triangles, Goldstein Therapy, Clifton NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:52+00:00

 

Is “Three a Crowd” when it comes to relationships?

When I was in graduate school, the idea of using triangulation in relationships had a pretty bad rap. But there are healthy things about relationship triangles too. (As an aside, a great book that discusses triangulation […]

Insights about Relationship Triangles, Goldstein Therapy, Clifton NJ2017-09-11T16:40:52+00:00
7 03, 2016

Attachment Styles and Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00

therapy for trauma

I received many requests to create a follow up video after posting my video on “Dismissive Attachment”. Many people expressed that they wanted to hear more about the other attachment styles as well. I offer some more general thoughts about the different […]

Attachment Styles and Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00
19 01, 2016

The “Too Good” Parent- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00

parentingCan there be too much of a “good thing” when it comes to parenting?

Although most people come to therapy either because they feel some sort of distress or else are at a loss about how to manage a specific life situation or set of feelings, […]

The “Too Good” Parent- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00
24 08, 2015

Speaking Up in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00

speaking up in relationshipsSpeaking Up in Relationships

One of the challenges for people who don’t speak up for themselves is that everyone seems to like them that way. Whether it’s a co-worker, spouse, child, or friend- […]

Speaking Up in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00
28 12, 2014

Mentalization Skills in Relationships, Part I- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:54+00:00

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“Looks Can be Deceiving”: Mentalization Skills in Relationships, Part I

So I’m going to talk with you today about some ideas that come from something called “mentalization based therapy”. Some of you may have heard of that but probably most of you have not. I’m going to […]

Mentalization Skills in Relationships, Part I- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:54+00:00
14 12, 2014

Mentalization Skills in Relationships: Part II

2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00

Click here to read Part I of this article

“Looks can Be Deceiving”: Mentalization Skills in Relationships, Part 2

What are the differences between the private mental experiences that happen inside of us, such as feelings, thoughts, or beliefs,  and the objective, concrete behaviors or actions that happen outside of us?

One of the main differences is […]

Mentalization Skills in Relationships: Part II2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00
14 12, 2014

Parenting: Does Hitting Work?

2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00

Why not use hitting when so many parents say that it “works”?

Even though it is true that hitting may seem effective sometimes in the short run in terms of getting a child to obey, in the long run, it interferes with a child’s development of a sense of ownership and boundary over his physical body. […]

Parenting: Does Hitting Work?2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00
14 12, 2014

Parenting and Secure Attachment

2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00

Helping Your Child Develop a Secure Attachment

It is well-known that children who are comfortably and securely attached to their parents do much better at growing up and thriving than children who are not secure. According to Psychiatrist John Bowlby and a large body of research on children, children with a secure attachment style easily go […]

Parenting and Secure Attachment2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00