You know that feeling when you want someone close—but the moment they actually get close, something inside you recoils.
Or maybe you feel safer on your own—until the space around you gets so quiet it starts […]
Sometimes when we need love the most, we push people away.
This isn’t because we don’t want connection—it’s often because a protective part of us learned long ago that reaching out for love leads to rejection. That […]
By Mirel Goldstein
(This is a fictional story and is not based on work with any client.)
Leah comes to me after her previous therapist retires.
She has taken a break from therapy for […]
Have you ever felt unseen or misread by the people around you?
All of us rely on feedback from others to form a sense of who we are. But when […]
Defense mechanisms are ways we protect ourselves from psychic or emotional pain, often unconscious.
Some defense mechanisms are healthier than others, and some are more destructive to relationships than others are.
Many of us struggle with accepting the limits of reality—the disappointments, frustrations, and sadness that come with being human. It’s one thing to acknowledge these limits as painful, but it’s another to experience them with a sense of grievance, blaming others […]
Many people think of self-control as a good thing—something that helps us stay responsible, disciplined, and successful in life. And in many ways, it is. The ability to regulate emotions, plan carefully, and maintain high standards can be powerful strengths. […]
One of the most important aspects of treating anxiety and avoidance behaviors—especially in OCD—is identifying the core fear that drives them.
We can’t effectively treat anxiety unless we target the feared stimulus itself. This comes […]
Have you ever felt weak for how badly you wanted love?
Part of being human is the longing, at times, to be seen, valued, and loved by someone outside ourselves.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the dynamics of giving vs receiving, as well tensions between the need to express ourselves outwards vs. needing to retreat inwards. Sometimes we long to put ourselves out there and other times we yearn to take things in or sit with what’s inside.
