Ever feel like you’re too ‘together’ to be truly seen? Sometimes our most praised traits—competence, charm, independence—are actually defenses. This post explores how vulnerability can be the path back to real connection.
You know that feeling when you want someone close—but the moment they actually get close, something inside you recoils.
Or maybe you feel safer on your own—until the space around you gets so quiet it starts […]
Are you living from the outside in, chasing approval and molding yourself to fit what you think others want? When we prioritize external validation over our inner experience, we lose touch with our authentic selves and feel disconnected from what truly matters. It’s a cycle that can leave us feeling empty, trapped by the need to measure up. In this blog post, we explore how to break free from these patterns, reconnect with who we really are, and build relationships grounded in true intimacy rather than mere accommodation. Ready to start living from the inside out? Read on to find out how.
Many of us hesitate to speak up in relationships because we’re afraid of hurting others or rocking the boat. Avoiding conflict feels easier, but holding in our feelings reinforces the idea that relationships can grow without honest conversations. While it’s important to choose when and how to share, when silence becomes a habit, we lose the chance to deepen intimacy and clarity. Speaking up may feel risky, but it can create stronger, more authentic connections.
Some of my clients find themselves becoming very upset when they feel wronged or exploited. This reaction can be a strength, especially when we have the ability to protect ourselves by speaking up or leaving the situation. However, there are times when we […]
In truth, all emotions we experience are ultimately signals—responses to stimuli or conditioning we’ve internalized. By questioning whether these emotions truly belong to us (or if they’re introjected, i.e. alien aspects from others that don’t align with our true selves); assessing whether they’re helpful and appropriate to the context we’re experiencing them in; and recognizing them as acceptable parts of ourselves, we increase our agency and autonomy. Moving away from reflexive, automatic beliefs and reactions to our emotions towards more reflective and constructive ways of relating to them can help us engage with them in ways that align with our true selves.
Getting Past Anxiety: A Formula that Works
Do you worry all the time? Are you a ball of stress? Do you struggle with perfectionism, panic, or simply overthinking things?
Anxiety is no fun, but lots of people wait until things get really bad to get help.
If you struggle with […]
Anxiety about Making Decisions
What is it that makes it so hard for some people to make decisions, sometimes even simple ones?
Whether it’s feeling unable to make a decision in the first place; making decisions and then undoing them (for example, getting […]
