What psychoanalysis has taught us about transference, and some thoughts on transference at the beginning of therapy:
A lot of clients come to therapy with already activated transferences- transferences to the therapy setting; to the actual therapist; or to the idea of therapy.
Transference, loosely defined, refers to […]
Dealing with a Narcissist- Not so Simple
It’s not really the easiest thing to be a 21-year old intern, in graduate school, in a foreign country, speaking to your very first client, in a language that is not your native one.
Especially when your client turns out to have profound […]
When I was growing up my teachers used to say: two wrongs don’t make a right.
Annoying and clichéd at the time, little did I know just how often I would need these very words in my work as a therapist.
In the couples I work with, one of […]
Getting Past Anxiety: A Formula that Works
Do you worry all the time? Are you a ball of stress? Do you struggle with perfectionism, panic, or simply overthinking things?
Anxiety is no fun, but lots of people wait until things get really bad to get help.
If you struggle with […]
Many successful high achieving women struggle with an unintentional power differential in their marriage which gets in the way of developing the type of intimacy they desire and deserve. I help them move past this struggle to create connection.
If this is you, perhaps you dread coming home […]
You’ve come to this page which means you’re likely dealing with someone in your life who really PUSHES YOUR BUTTONS, makes you feel HELPLESS, or draws you into constant BATTLES you don’t want to be having.
You’ve probably already tried everything you could think of to make things […]
Manipulation Through Guilt and Other Thoughts
For those of you who’ve read my post Projective Processes in Relationships, you may remember the idea that some people communicate or interact with us by provoking certain feelings or reactions in us, rather than speaking directly about their own emotional […]
Are you hiding from the world, or desperate to be noticed?
A psychoanalyst I know recently told me that people only feel the need to show off that which they have had to hide.
Since so many of my patients struggle with shame over showing the world […]
Here is a video that goes together with the post called “Your Unconscious May Be Trying To Tell you Something”
For more information about using signifiers in therapy, claiming your own desire, and integrating the Symbolic, Imaginary, and the Real…here are some of […]
Feeling Stuck? Your Unconscious May be Trying to Tell You Something
Lacan suggested that the “unconscious is structured like a language”.
And for those of you who feel STUCK, it’s a language you may want to learn.
STUCK may mean that you can’t move forward with something in […]