Split Attention versus Mindfulness?
Recent trends encouraging mindfulness have pointed our awareness to the benefits of directing our full attention to one thing at a time, giving that thing our full focus and presence of mind. When it comes to things like eating mindlessly, multi-tasking, checking facebook while our loved ones are talking to us- to […]
Do you take the blame for everything??
Do you tend to get blamed for things that aren’t your fault?
Some people feed off of having someone to blame whenever things go wrong or feel uncomfortable. There always has to be someone else around so that whatever happens can be someone else’s fault. But what if you’re the […]
Fear of Getting Your Hopes Up
“I’m so excited about that job that I just interviewed for, I really hope I get it.”
“I really liked that person that I just went on a date with, I had such a good feeling about it”.
“I just had the most amazing idea…wait until you hear it!”
When we express feelings […]
A Therapist’s Thoughts on Reclaiming Lost Parts of Ourselves
May 25, 2014 10:55 pm | Mirel Goldstein
“I’m so excited about that job that I just interviewed for, I really hope I get it.”
“I really liked that person that I just went on a date with, I had such a good feeling about it”.
“I just had the […]
The Gap Between Thought and Action
Jun 07, 2014 11:45 pm | Mirel Goldstein
How much space do you leave between your thoughts and actions? How quickly do you act on an impulse or thought that pops into your mind? For one couple I worked with, answering this question about the gap between thought and action was […]
Do Opposites Attract? Lessons from Couples Therapy
Jun 22, 2014 12:39 am | Mirel Goldstein
Carla and David had been coming to see me for couples therapy over the course of several months, when we found ourselves at a major impasse regarding Carla’s complaints about David’s lack of responsibility and follow-through. Carla was extremely organized and liked […]
Self-Hatred
Jun 29, 2014 12:34 am | Mirel Goldstein
Recently, a number of clients have communicated to me some version of “I hate myself” or “I’ve always hated myself”, while discussing symptoms such as depression, compulsive or addictive behaviors, or self-esteem issues. Often, this powerful self-hatred is accompanied by feelings of being toxic, evil, and inherently prone […]
Compulsive Rescuing
Jul 04, 2014 12:51 am | Mirel Goldstein
Many people wish to be rescued when circumstances become trying enough. Situations such as not having enough money to pay one’s bills, feeling out of control about compulsive behaviors such as overeating or drinking alcohol, feeling lonely after a recent relationship breakup, or trying to get out […]
Emotion Regulation: Shame
Jul 13, 2014 12:38 am | Mirel Goldstein
Most of us have experienced feelings of shame at some point in our lives…feelings of wanting to hide, wishing we didn’t exist, feeling painfully exposed to others and their judgments. For some, the sense of inner […]
Cognitive Therapy: Mindful Awareness
Many of us are afraid to spend quality time with ourselves. We manage to run away in all sorts of ways, trying to escape the unsettling quiet of being alone with our own minds, or noticing how loud our feelings can be when we actually pay attention to them. Some of us […]