A common symptom of anxiety or OCD is a need for information and knowledge, and difficulty coping with uncertainty or ambiguity.
When things are unclear, unpredictable, or unknown, sometimes we cope with anxiety about this by overanalyzing things, […]
Each of us has our specific go-to ways of protecting ourselves from pain or trauma, often subconsciously chosen in large part based on our inborn temperaments and personalities. Some of our protective mechanisms were learned in very early childhood, before we even […]
Sometimes married clients come in struggling to figure out whether they’re “in love” with their partner or not, even though the partner is nice, stable, and not doing anything wrong? These clients don’t essentially have any complaints about their marriage, but are struggling more with fear about what it means about them and […]
Supportive vs. Expressive Therapy Approaches
Therapy approaches and techniques tend to be on a supportive/expressive continuum.
What this means is that sometimes a therapist focuses on helping a client gain deeper insight into memories, feelings, thoughts, wishes, and expectations that are dynamically unconscious (out of one’s […]
One of the most painful things that can happen in relationships is to feel like we really just can’t get through to another person; that no matter how hard we try to make ourselves heard, somehow the other person just can’t or won’t see our point of view.
The need for understanding is a basic and […]
Yesterday I was talking to a couple of clients about how self sufficient they are.
Some people find it hard to lean on other people. It feels too vulnerable or too weak or they simply don’t believe there’s anyone they can trust to have their back.
I often talk […]
In this video, assistant Martine Emmons interviews Mirel Goldstein of Goldstein Therapy about some of the changes clients are struggling with during the Covid-19 pandemic; in particular regarding the anxiety people are feeling about change. (Yes, we are all dealing with change!)
Many of us take the idea of love for granted. We think we want it (love, that is). We try to get it. We imagine the form we want it in, and we imagine how happy we’d be if only we could find another to meet our […]
The line between stress and trauma
It’s no secret that many of us are waking up each day to a very stressful reality. Yet where is the line between stress (from which we can recover) and trauma that overwhelms us?
Trauma can occur when stress becomes prolonged, when we don’t […]
Are you getting enough help?
One of my favorite things to teach people is to delegate.
This is important if you have a business, and it’s also important for your personal life…whether it’s getting help with walking your dog, organizing your house, running errands, or taking care of your children at […]