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8 11, 2015

Coping with Grief- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00

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Coping with Grief
There are many types of losses that we all face, some major- like a death or relationship breakup- and some less so- like a missed opportunity or saying no to something we want to do. How we cope with disappointments, not getting […]

Coping with Grief- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00
21 10, 2015

How To Keep Passion Alive in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00

keeping passion aliveHow to Keep Passion Alive in Committed Relationships

Good coupling involves a lively back and forth between safety and risk.

The security of commitment, mutual values, sharing a home, and managing day to day tasks as a team tends to create a […]

How To Keep Passion Alive in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00
24 08, 2015

Speaking Up in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00

speaking up in relationshipsSpeaking Up in Relationships

One of the challenges for people who don’t speak up for themselves is that everyone seems to like them that way. Whether it’s a co-worker, spouse, child, or friend- […]

Speaking Up in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:53+00:00
28 06, 2015

Disengaging from Manipulators- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-12-31T00:05:35+00:00

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Relationship Issues- Disengaging from Manipulators

One of the most challenging things for many of my “reasonable” clients to understand is that not everyone can be reasoned with. Some unhealthy people play by their own sets of rules, and no matter how […]

Disengaging from Manipulators- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-12-31T00:05:35+00:00
13 05, 2015

Containment in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:54+00:00

Couples-Therapy-clifton-new-jersey-mirel-goldsteinContainment in Relationships

While the vicissitudes of ordinary discourse in relationships may be easy for many of us, this is by no means the case for everyone.

What can we make of the times when words are not treated as simply the best tools we’ve come up […]

Containment in Relationships- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:54+00:00
11 03, 2015

Abandonment: Depression and Other Effects- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2019-07-25T04:21:22+00:00

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Abandonment: Depression and Other Effects

Feelings of abandonment by people we need or love, even people who hurt us sometimes too, can be one of the most difficult experiences in relationships, calling up some of our most primitive survival mechanisms to manage the pain.

But we all experience […]

Abandonment: Depression and Other Effects- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2019-07-25T04:21:22+00:00
11 01, 2015

Dependence and Being Controlled: Is it worth it- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

2017-09-11T16:40:54+00:00

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Anxiety and Insecurity about One’s Sense of Self

Would you give up your autonomy for the illusion of protection?

Many adults do, especially those with anxiety disorders, fears of abandonment, or relationship insecurity.

As a matter of fact, many people with anxiety disorders feel that they must depend on […]

Dependence and Being Controlled: Is it worth it- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ2017-09-11T16:40:54+00:00
14 12, 2014

Mentalization Skills in Relationships: Part II

2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00

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“Looks can Be Deceiving”: Mentalization Skills in Relationships, Part 2

What are the differences between the private mental experiences that happen inside of us, such as feelings, thoughts, or beliefs,  and the objective, concrete behaviors or actions that happen outside of us?

One of the main differences is […]

Mentalization Skills in Relationships: Part II2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00
14 12, 2014

Parenting and Secure Attachment

2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00

Helping Your Child Develop a Secure Attachment

It is well-known that children who are comfortably and securely attached to their parents do much better at growing up and thriving than children who are not secure. According to Psychiatrist John Bowlby and a large body of research on children, children with a secure attachment style easily go […]

Parenting and Secure Attachment2017-09-11T16:40:55+00:00
13 12, 2014

Perfectionism and Projection in Psychoanalytic Therapy

2019-07-25T04:49:36+00:00

psychoanalysis clifton njInsights from Psychoanalytic Therapy: Could you be projecting in your relationships?

We all have defenses, which are ways that we protect ourselves from feelings, experiences, or memories that are painful or hard to cope with. One common defense is “projection” or “projective identification”, in which we […]

Perfectionism and Projection in Psychoanalytic Therapy2019-07-25T04:49:36+00:00