Taking the first step and contacting a therapist is scary but it is so worth it!

In the beginning, you may feel a fear of being judged or of admitting that you need help from a professional. But when you open yourself to my help, you will find warmth, kindness, and a deep perceptiveness and understanding that work together to create a safe and productive space in which to heal.

Although I should probably tell you that the clients who work well with me are NOT the ones who are looking for a QUICK FIX.

And here’s why not:

You see, all the marketing out there about special techniques that can make you feel better, smarter, happier, etc. within a really short period of time can make it hard to appreciate the value of INVESTING in a long-term process of therapy that will lead to lifelong, LASTING transformations that don’t simply put a bandaid on a problem or fix something a little bit without altering the CORE issues underlying your entire mindset.

Having a truly safe space of your own, the kind of unpressured, accepting, and agenda-free space that therapy can provide (and sometimes the only safe place you actually have in your life!), creates the necessary conditions for exploring your feelings, wishes, and needs on a deeper level, in addition to confronting unconscious patterns and issues that may be affecting you in ways you don’t even know about.

You can change:

  • how your parent
  • how you assert yourself
  • how you decide what you need
  • how you make decisions
  • who and what you allow into your life
  • how you respond to circumstances beyond your control.

This is NOT about solving one or two problems, but is much more about changing EVERYTHING about your way of being with yourself and being in the world.

So, if you’re the kind of person who is willing and ready to invest in a personal growth process and relationship experience that can help you be and access your VERY BEST SELF, then I’d like to be part of your journey.

Please call me at (973) 348-9384 to take the next step! (And please leave a message so I can call you back when I am not in session, I WILL call you back!)

I specialize in the treatment of anxiety, trauma, and relationship issues.

Panic attacks, trouble sleeping, social fears, rumination and fixation are painful distractions the mind creates to keep you from understanding your feelings. Traumatic memories overwhelm the brain’s ability to put experiences in the past. Together, we’ll identify the source of your symptoms and reframe trauma as past experience, not present.

For couples experiencing relationship issues, I bring insight-oriented observation to help you understand one another’s feelings. I’ve had very good success helping couples identify underlying feelings that have been missed and establishing new communication pathways.

Whether you’re looking for help with a relationship issue or an individual one, you probably have some questions for me. Some of the things that people wonder about when they are seeking help are: Will my therapist actually care about me as a person? Does my therapist know what he/she is doing and have the expertise to help me with my specific issue? And, can I trust my therapist to be honest with me and dependable/trustworthy?

I invite you to call me for a free phone consultation, where we will both have the chance to get an initial sense of whether the type of help I can provide will be the right fit for your needs. Some of the things we will identify are: What type of therapy are you looking for? (I can explain the different types available, or you might have your own thoughts about this). Do you have insurance benefits that you want to use, or fee constraints? What type of issue are you wanting help with?

My specialties include:

Relationship Issues, such as: trust difficulties, communication problems, feelings of disconnection, or constant fighting. I work with both couples and individuals to help them break free from unhealthy cycles of interaction and reestablish feelings of closeness, safety, and security in their relationships. I also offer consultations to help people understand difficult relationship dynamics better, as well as to identify effective ways of interacting with difficult family members.

Anxiety Disorders such as:

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, in which a person becomes afraid of or preoccupied with obsessive thoughts about feared events such as: making a mistake; having contact with germs; committing a sin; hurting someone such as one’s child (or violent fantasies/images that come into one’s mind); and losing control in some other way.
Social Anxiety Disorder, in which a person constantly worries about or tries to avoid feelings of embarrassment or perceived rejection in social settings
Panic Disorder, in which a person experiences physical symptoms of panic, such as dizziness or a racing heart, without an apparent cause; often this person then becomes afraid of the panic attacks themselves, trying to avoid situations in which a panic attack may occur.
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, in which a person tries to avoid feelings and memories associated with a past traumatic event, either by trying to avoid situations that remind the person of the past trauma or by reliving the event as if it’s happening over and over again in the present (rather than thinking about and processing the event as something that has happened in the past but is now over).

Personality Issues such as: Borderline Personality Disorder, dealing with difficult people, commitment fears in relationships, and personality splits (opposite extremes in one’s feelings and relationships).

I also invite you to read some of my blog posts to get a feel for some of my work.

Treatment Approaches:

My general approach is psychodynamic. This means that I will help you identify patterns of feelings, behaviors, and relationship themes that may be out of your awareness but are influencing a lot of your behaviors, motivations, difficulties, and choices. We will explore how these connect to past experiences and how resolving them, in the therapy relationship as well as outside of it, can help you have a greater sense of well-being and freedom from symptoms and struggles that you are having.

 

Who Is Mirel Goldstein?

Mirel Goldstein, MS, MA, LPC is a licensed therapist with an office conveniently located in Clifton NJ; she is a graduate of Columbia University, with over 14 years of experience successfully counseling both couples and individuals. Mirel specializes in the treatment of relationship issues, trauma, and anxiety disorders. Mirel’s work experience includes clinical case management; forensic assessment and case management for clients with co-occurring mental illness and criminal justice involvement; crisis intervention and assessment for clients experiencing acute symptoms, substance abuse, suicidality, and self-harming behaviors; clinical consultation and staff training in a residential facility for clients with chronic mental illness; emergency room counseling; school counseling; family therapy; and group therapy. Mirel maintains her private psychotherapy practice in addition to her responsibilities as a college teacher, author, and popular lecturer. Mirel is the former online training administrator for the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation and authored the novel “What Your Therapist is Really Thinking”; she is also a past recipient of an award for her clinical work by the New Jersey Association for Mental Health and Addiction Agencies.