In the beginning, so many of my clients feel tremendous fear of being judged, or shame so overpowering they can’t imagine sharing it. But when you open yourself to my help, you find warmth, kindness, and a deep perceptiveness and understanding that work together to create a safe and productive space in which to heal.
My ideal client is smart, sensitive, and looking to form a connection with someone trustworthy and accepting.
I specialize in the treatment of anxiety, trauma, and relationship issues.
Panic attacks, trouble sleeping, social fears, rumination and fixation are painful distractions the mind creates to keep you from understanding your feelings. Traumatic memories overwhelm the brain’s ability to put experiences in the past. Together, we’ll identify the source of your symptoms and reframe trauma as past experience, not present.
For couples experiencing relationship issues, I bring insight-oriented observation to help you understand one another’s feelings. I’ve had very good success helping couples identify underlying feelings that have been missed and establishing new communication pathways.
Whether you’re looking for help with a relationship issue or an individual one, you probably have some questions for me. Some of the things that people wonder about when they are seeking help are: Will my therapist actually care about me as a person? Does my therapist know what he/she is doing and have the expertise to help me with my specific issue? And, can I trust my therapist to be honest with me and dependable/trustworthy?
I invite you to call me for a free phone consultation, where we will both have the chance to get an initial sense of whether the type of help I can provide will be the right fit for your needs. Some of the things we will identify are: What type of therapy are you looking for? (I can explain the different types available, or you might have your own thoughts about this). Do you have insurance benefits that you want to use, or fee constraints? What type of issue are you wanting help with?
My specialties include:
Relationship Issues, such as: trust difficulties, communication problems, feelings of disconnection, or constant fighting. I work with both couples and individuals to help them break free from unhealthy cycles of interaction and reestablish feelings of closeness, safety, and security in their relationships. I also offer consultations to help people understand difficult relationship dynamics better, as well as to identify effective ways of interacting with difficult family members.
Anxiety Disorders such as:
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, in which a person becomes afraid of or preoccupied with obsessive thoughts about feared events such as: making a mistake; having contact with germs; committing a sin; hurting someone such as one’s child (or violent fantasies/images that come into one’s mind); and losing control in some other way.
Social Anxiety Disorder, in which a person constantly worries about or tries to avoid feelings of embarrassment or perceived rejection in social settings
Panic Disorder, in which a person experiences physical symptoms of panic, such as dizziness or a racing heart, without an apparent cause; often this person then becomes afraid of the panic attacks themselves, trying to avoid situations in which a panic attack may occur.
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, in which a person tries to avoid feelings and memories associated with a past traumatic event, either by trying to avoid situations that remind the person of the past trauma or by reliving the event as if it’s happening over and over again in the present (rather than thinking about and processing the event as something that has happened in the past but is now over).
Personality Issues such as: Borderline Personality Disorder, dealing with difficult people, commitment fears in relationships, and personality splits (opposite extremes in one’s feelings and relationships).
I also invite you to read some of my blog posts to get a feel for some of my work.
My general approach is psychodynamic. This means that I will help you identify patterns of feelings, behaviors, and relationship themes that may be out of your awareness but are influencing a lot of your behaviors, motivations, difficulties, and choices. We will explore how these connect to past experiences and how resolving them, in the therapy relationship as well as outside of it, can help you have a greater sense of well-being and freedom from symptoms and struggles that you are having.
I also use some cognitive behavioral therapy techniques with some clients, such as exposure therapy and dialectical behavior therapy skills training, to help clients manage their emotions and behaviors better, in addition to motivational interviewing techniques that can help you become more ready for and open to change.
We will discuss which approach or approaches are right for you.
A behavioral approach is often best if you are in the “action” stage of change, meaning that you are ready to take active concrete steps towards reaching your goals and to commit to trying new behaviors that will help you manage your feelings and relationships better. Psychodynamic therapy, on the other hand, might be the treatment of choice if unconscious conflicts or memories, or longstanding relationship patterns, are at the heart of your current struggles. Psychodynamic treatment is also helpful after completing a course of behavior therapy, to reduce vulnerability to a recurrence of old patterns or problems, as well as to help you resolve any ambivalence or resistance that you might have towards making deeper changes in your personality. After we meet, I will explain all of your treatment options, as well as recommend a course of action, and review any of your concerns and questions with you.
Who Is Mirel Goldstein?
Mirel Goldstein, MS, MA, LPC is a licensed therapist in Clifton NJ, graduate of Columbia University, with over 14 years of experience successfully counseling both couples and individuals; she specializes in relationship issues and anxiety disorders. Mirel maintains a private psychotherapy practice in Clifton NJ, in addition to her responsibilities as a college teacher, author, parenting lecturer, and online training administrator for the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation. She is the author of the book “What Your Therapist is Really Thinking”, as well as a recipient of an award by the New Jersey Association for Mental Health and Addiction Agencies for her clinical work. Mirel teaches college courses on parenting, co-authored a research article on the connection between marital closeness and depression, and frequently lectures about parenting as well as on treatment for borderline personality disorder.