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4 11, 2024

When Silence Feels Safer, But Speaking Up Helps Relationships

mirel2024-11-06T16:09:05+00:00

Many of us hesitate to speak up in relationships because we’re afraid of hurting others or rocking the boat. Avoiding conflict feels easier, but holding in our feelings reinforces the idea that relationships can grow without honest conversations. While it’s important to choose when and how to share, when silence becomes a habit, we lose the chance to deepen intimacy and clarity. Speaking up may feel risky, but it can create stronger, more authentic connections.

When Silence Feels Safer, But Speaking Up Helps Relationshipsmirel2024-11-06T16:09:05+00:00

25 08, 2024

Exposure Therapy Script for Accepting Social Slights Instead of Fixating on Them

mirel2024-08-27T03:42:35+00:00

Some of my clients find themselves becoming very upset when they feel wronged or exploited. This reaction can be a strength, especially when we have the ability to protect ourselves by speaking up or leaving the situation. However, there are times when we […]

Exposure Therapy Script for Accepting Social Slights Instead of Fixating on Themmirel2024-08-27T03:42:35+00:00

11 08, 2024

Some Thoughts on Guilt and Shame

mirel2024-08-27T03:43:32+00:00

In truth, all emotions we experience are ultimately signals—responses to stimuli or conditioning we’ve internalized. By questioning whether these emotions truly belong to us (or if they’re introjected, i.e. alien aspects from others that don’t align with our true selves); assessing whether they’re helpful and appropriate to the context we’re experiencing them in; and recognizing them as acceptable parts of ourselves, we increase our agency and autonomy. Moving away from reflexive, automatic beliefs and reactions to our emotions towards more reflective and constructive ways of relating to them can help us engage with them in ways that align with our true selves.

Some Thoughts on Guilt and Shamemirel2024-08-27T03:43:32+00:00

26 08, 2019

Healing from Therapy Trauma- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

mirel2023-12-31T01:23:20+00:00

Healing from therapy trauma:

Most therapists are good people who are competent, kind, ethical, and qualified when it comes to helping people with mental health or relationship struggles. Licensing and ethics boards also exist to help protect clients from being harmed by therapy.

But therapists are […]

Healing from Therapy Trauma- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJmirel2023-12-31T01:23:20+00:00

30 12, 2018

Getting Past Anxiety- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

mirel2019-07-28T15:11:38+00:00

Getting Past Anxiety: A Formula that Works

Do you worry all the time? Are you a ball of stress? Do you struggle with perfectionism, panic, or simply overthinking things?

Anxiety is no fun, but lots of people wait until things get really bad to get help.

If you struggle with […]

Getting Past Anxiety- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJmirel2019-07-28T15:11:38+00:00

18 06, 2018

High-Achieving Women Married to Passive Men- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

mirel2018-07-05T05:19:28+00:00

therapy

Many successful high achieving women struggle with an unintentional power differential in their marriage which gets in the way of developing the type of intimacy they desire and deserve. I help them move past this struggle to create connection.

If this is you, perhaps you dread coming home […]

High-Achieving Women Married to Passive Men- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJmirel2018-07-05T05:19:28+00:00

20 12, 2017

To show ourselves or to hide? Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

mirel2017-12-31T00:01:33+00:00

showing off

Are you hiding from the world, or desperate to be noticed?

A psychoanalyst I know recently told me that people only feel the need to show off that which they have had to hide.

Since so many of my patients struggle with shame over showing the world […]

To show ourselves or to hide? Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJmirel2017-12-31T00:01:33+00:00

30 10, 2017

Your Unconscious May be Trying to Tell You Something- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

mirel2017-12-31T00:04:33+00:00

psychoanalysis clifton nj Feeling Stuck? Your Unconscious May be Trying to Tell You Something

Lacan suggested that the “unconscious is structured like a language”.

And for those of you who feel STUCK, it’s a language you may want to learn.

STUCK may mean that you can’t move forward with something in […]

Your Unconscious May be Trying to Tell You Something- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJmirel2017-12-31T00:04:33+00:00

28 02, 2017

Insights about Relationship Triangles, Goldstein Therapy, Clifton NJ

mirel2017-09-11T16:40:52+00:00

Is “Three a Crowd” when it comes to relationships?

When I was in graduate school, the idea of using triangulation in relationships had a pretty bad rap. But there are healthy things about relationship triangles too. (As an aside, a great book that discusses triangulation […]

Insights about Relationship Triangles, Goldstein Therapy, Clifton NJmirel2017-09-11T16:40:52+00:00

23 01, 2017

When You’re Tired of the Pain- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJ

mirel2017-09-11T16:40:52+00:00

When You’re Tired of the Pain

If you’ve ever looked at the people around you and wondered, Why does everybody seem to have it so easy when I have it so hard, no matter how hard I try, then you might know what […]

When You’re Tired of the Pain- Goldstein Therapy- Clifton, NJmirel2017-09-11T16:40:52+00:00