Ever feel like you’re too ‘together’ to be truly seen? Sometimes our most praised traits—competence, charm, independence—are actually defenses. This post explores how vulnerability can be the path back to real connection.
You know that feeling when you want someone close—but the moment they actually get close, something inside you recoils.
Or maybe you feel safer on your own—until the space around you gets so quiet it starts […]
Are you living from the outside in, chasing approval and molding yourself to fit what you think others want? When we prioritize external validation over our inner experience, we lose touch with our authentic selves and feel disconnected from what truly matters. It’s a cycle that can leave us feeling empty, trapped by the need to measure up. In this blog post, we explore how to break free from these patterns, reconnect with who we really are, and build relationships grounded in true intimacy rather than mere accommodation. Ready to start living from the inside out? Read on to find out how.
In truth, all emotions we experience are ultimately signals—responses to stimuli or conditioning we’ve internalized. By questioning whether these emotions truly belong to us (or if they’re introjected, i.e. alien aspects from others that don’t align with our true selves); assessing whether they’re helpful and appropriate to the context we’re experiencing them in; and recognizing them as acceptable parts of ourselves, we increase our agency and autonomy. Moving away from reflexive, automatic beliefs and reactions to our emotions towards more reflective and constructive ways of relating to them can help us engage with them in ways that align with our true selves.
Are you getting enough help?
One of my favorite things to teach people is to delegate.
This is important if you have a business, and it’s also important for your personal life…whether it’s getting help with walking your dog, organizing your house, running errands, or taking care of your children at […]
Healing from therapy trauma:
Most therapists are good people who are competent, kind, ethical, and qualified when it comes to helping people with mental health or relationship struggles. Licensing and ethics boards also exist to help protect clients from being harmed by therapy.
But therapists are […]
Feeling Stuck? Your Unconscious May be Trying to Tell You Something
Lacan suggested that the “unconscious is structured like a language”.
And for those of you who feel STUCK, it’s a language you may want to learn.
STUCK may mean that you can’t move forward with something in […]
Have you ever had the experience of feeling like someone kept pushing your buttons over and over until you finally exploded, even though you were trying so hard not to?
Or perhaps this is familiar to you: You keep getting blamed for something that you’re only doing because […]
Does Holiday Time with the Family Shake you Up Emotionally?
You are of course not alone!
Spending the holidays with family can be a great chance to reconnect but also a serious stressor that can bring up old issues of sibling rivalry, territoriality, competitiveness, boundary difficulties, and perhaps hardest of all, trying […]
Is “Three a Crowd” when it comes to relationships?
When I was in graduate school, the idea of using triangulation in relationships had a pretty bad rap. But there are healthy things about relationship triangles too. (As an aside, a great book that discusses triangulation […]
