Here’s a 10 minute audio clip I created with some tips for those of you living with someone abusive during the coronovirus…being home all day in a hostile environment can be quite stressful so I wanted to offer some ideas and encouragement.
5 defenses against closeness that may be affecting you or your relationship
Many of us take the idea of love for granted. We think we want it, we try to get it (love, that is), we imagine the form we want it in, and we imagine how […]
When I read this poignant account of the author’s experiences with her psychoanalyst, I knew I wanted to post it as a guest post on my blog! I’m grateful to the author for allowing me to do so and hope you will enjoy this as […]
Conflicts and anxieties about rivalry and competitiveness
Are you a perfectionist? Competitive? Afraid of what people would think if they saw or knew the “real” you?
You may be more anxious and/or conflicted than you know!
Symptoms of anxiety such as
- fear of social situations,
- panic attacks,
- or […]
Healing from therapy trauma:
Most therapists are good people who are competent, kind, ethical, and qualified when it comes to helping people with mental health or relationship struggles. Licensing and ethics boards also exist to help protect clients from being harmed by therapy.
But therapists are […]
What psychoanalysis has taught us about transference, and some thoughts on transference at the beginning of therapy:
A lot of clients come to therapy with already activated transferences- transferences to the therapy setting; to the actual therapist; or to the idea of therapy.
Transference, loosely defined, refers […]
When I was growing up my teachers used to say: two wrongs don’t make a right.
Annoying and clichéd at the time, little did I know just how often I would need these very words in my work as a therapist.
In the couples I work with, one of […]
Getting Past Anxiety: A Formula that Works
Do you worry all the time? Are you a ball of stress? Do you struggle with perfectionism, panic, or simply overthinking things?
Anxiety is no fun, but lots of people wait until things get really bad to get help.
If you struggle with […]
You’ve come to this page which means you’re likely dealing with someone in your life who really PUSHES YOUR BUTTONS, makes you feel HELPLESS, or draws you into constant BATTLES you don’t want to be having.
You’ve probably already tried everything you could think of to make things […]
Are you hiding from the world, or desperate to be noticed?
A psychoanalyst I know recently told me that people only feel the need to show off that which they have had to hide.
Since so many of my patients struggle with shame over showing the world […]